The view

Oct. 19th, 2017 12:00 pm
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Posted by midcenturyjo

When the view is so spectacular why try to compete with your interior design? You'll only come off second best. Instead be understated, sophisticated, complementary. Love the subtle cloud references in this stylishly simple apartment in Sydney by Ioanna Lennox Interiors. I'm quite sure living here would at times be like living in the clouds.

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House of Ideas

Oct. 19th, 2017 04:30 am
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It may have been only existed as an installation for the Lodz Design Festival earlier this month but how amazing would it be if this hauntingly beautiful old house could retain its modern trappings, even better if I could live there. A fantastical world of peeling ceilings and tattered wallpaper as backdrop to cutting edge furniture, striking art and a jungle of indoor plants. This slightly fractured dream of a domain is by Design Alive and you can read more including sources here.

Photography by Marek Swoboda

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Oct. 18th, 2017 11:15 pm
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dc comics [60] ➝ wednesday spoilers: batman 33 (bruce, selina, alfred, dick, jason, damian, duke)


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dc comics [55] ➝ rebirth green lanterns (hal jordan)


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Daily Feminist Cheat Sheet

Oct. 18th, 2017 09:55 pm
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Posted by Juliana Britto Schwartz

A federal judge ordered the U.S. government to allow an undocumented teenager in its custody to have an abortion, after the Trump administration tried to prevent her from having the procedure. 

This study shows that 75% of victims who speak out against workplace sexual harassment experience some form of retaliation.

Read Shannon Keating’s essay on the sexual harassment of queer women, and the men who say women shouldn’t be queer unless they perform their queerness for male consumption.

New York City just expanded its paid sick leave law to include paid safe days for survivors of gender violence.

Hollywood’s female crew members are sexually harassed, too — and they don’t have the platform of stardom

Parental involvement laws are forcing foster teens to go to court to seek abortions.

In an unusual move, a Minnesota judge has allowed four protestors who shut off two oil pipelines to use the “necessity defense.” They can now argue that the threat of climate change from the pipeline’s oil was so great that their actions were justified.

Marvel Is Marvel exchange

Oct. 19th, 2017 09:04 am
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The idea here is to organize a gift exchange designed for Marvel and its many branched runs, authors, related and unrelated fandoms. The idea is to include the X-Men side and the Avengers side and every other side that non-Marvel fans don't realize is Marvel. The idea is to include any timeline you want, any world you want, any character you want, so long as it's Marvel.

NOW OPEN FOR NOMINATIONS

Dreamwidth Community | LiveJournal Feed | 2017 AO3 Collection | 2017 Tagset
  • Nominations: Sunday, September 24 - Saturday, October 14
  • Sign Ups: Tuesday, October 17 - Sunday, October 29
  • Assignments Out: Monday, November 6
  • Works Due: Saturday, December 9
  • Works Revealed: Sunday, December 17
  • Authors Revealed: Sunday, December 24
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180+ (ongoing) THE GIFTED HERE.

+ UPDATED DEFENDERS w/ 33 JESSICA JONES HERE.
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Posted by Jess Fournier

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month — a month dedicated to raising awareness of the fact that an awful lot of people, including an estimated 54% of trans and nonbinary people and at least 50% of lesbian, gay and bisexual people, experience intimate partner violence in their lifetimes.

Domestic Violence Awareness Month (DVAM) encapsulates many of my issues with the contemporary U.S. domestic violence movement: its erasure of the systemic enablers of intimate partner violence, its exclusion of LGBTQ survivors from resources and discussion, and its collusion with law enforcement that perpetrate violence against marginalized survivors and their communities. Events for this month hosted by nonprofits and local governments tend to focus on educating people about the existence of domestic violence through statistics, vigils and events, and public statements by elected officials, including the Rapist-in-Chief, Donald Trump.

These gestures may be well-intentioned (in some cases) and cathartic for some survivors. But they also expose the hypocrisy of institutions that seek to ‘raise awareness’ of intimate partner violence while oppressing survivors of color, queer and trans survivors, poor survivors, and immigrant survivors. Are survivors safer when Boston celebrates DVAM but slashes funding for housing programs and collaborates with ICE? How helpful are DVAM events by law enforcement agencies that routinely perpetrate sexual assault and criminalize survivors of color for protecting themselves and their families from abusers? How about when colleges that ignore Title IX celebrate DVAM?

By focusing on the nebulous goal of “awareness” rather than on the concrete systemic and structural harms that survivors face, DVAM deflects attention from the role that institutions play in perpetrating and facilitating intimate partner violence (and other forms of gender violence). Survivors might be allowed to participate in these events, but they don’t necessarily serve to make us safer or address the causes of violence.

So, in light of this month, I want to highlight survivor-led efforts that offer us alternatives for responding to the gravity of intimate partner violence and struggling for a better world. The anarchist feminist, queer and trans survivor authors of the zine Dangerous Spaces show one set of possibilities to resist the entwined structures of interpersonal and systemic violence that institutions often ignore:

We do not want a feminism that will put us up in a run down state shelter for a short while until we’re “back on our feet.” We want a feminism that will break back into our house we were just kicked out of and tell the landlord he’ll have hell to pay from a mob of angry bitches if he attempts eviction again. And when one of us is raped and murdered for our gender we definitely do not want more empty calls for “justice” and quiet candle-lit vigils… We want a visible expression of exasperation, anger, and frustration that makes obvious that we are finished with these routines: the routines of violence against women and queer people, the routines of quietly shaking our heads at these tragedies, the routines of asking for change. We want a feminism that is not afraid to try new things, that is dynamic enough to know that at times healing comes in the form of vengeance and change comes in the form of destroying what destroys you.

Their actions — shutting down city streets, challenging and naming community perpetrators, providing material support and protection to survivors — are powerful to me because they serve to remind us that violence is never over, never part of a past that can be forgotten. When violence is part of the fabric of the world in which we live, nothing short of total revolution can bring an end to it.

And there are so many ways to enact that revolution on a daily basis: supporting currently incarcerated survivors, demanding immigration justice and economic justice, supporting our friends, reading and learning from other survivors, fighting to abolish prisons and police, and many others. There is no universal model of healing or survival, but we can still support one another and work for our collective liberation.

This October, let’s give the survivors in our lives more than awareness. Honor and respect survivors’ self-determination, rage and grief in the face of interpersonal and state violence. Give time, resources and energy to uplift the voices of survivors on the margins. Awareness is only the beginning: our mourning must come with a promise to continually resist the systems that keep all of us from being free.

“We are not asking for a right to the streets, we are taking them; we are not asking for advertisements that do not objectify women, we’re destroying the commercial mechanisms that objectify women; we are not appealing to male power for an end to rape, but threatening: ‘If you touch me, I will fucking kill you.’”Dangerous Spaces

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Posted by Reina Gattuso

Welcome to Fucking with Feministing, Feministing’s column about all things fucking and fucking-adjacent. Got a question about dildos? We’re on it. Want to explore fun, sexy sex outside of the realm of p-and-v intercourse? All over it, baby. Or maybe you’ve got a totally different question, which you can send in to reina@feministing.com to see answered on national television. Just kidding, it’ll be answered here, on the blog. 

I’m your host, Reina Gattuso, and if I’ve never done the thing you’re asking about, then I’ve at least spent hours looking at Google images of it for research purposes. Plus, our super rad partners (not, like, the physical sexual kind) at the Center for Sex and Culture definitely have the answers you’re looking for. So send me your sexy q’s at reina@feministing.com

And welcome to today’s topic: SQUIRT-O-RAMA, REDUX!

We’ve actually run a satisfying column on squirting already from the lovely and every-sexy Sesali, but the questions about this alluring practice continue to gush forth. The people want to know about squirting — and we’re here for the people.

So let’s revisit the debate and have a handy how-to on how to bring forth your inner fountain!

Today our fabulous reader asks:

What’s the trick with squirting? Does it feel good? Should I aim to learn how to do it because it benefits my sex life or is it something people see in porn and therefore think it’s sexy? Maybe I could learn it, but not if it doesn’t improve the already good sex I’m having.

Squirting probably comes up so much as a topic because in recent years it’s been featured in magazines and the like as one of the great mysteries of human sexuality, alongside the classics: “Can anyone actually suck their own dick?” and “Why am I attracted to Nicolas Cage??”

Is squirting real? Is squirting fake? Is squirting a myth invented to oppress women?

Nah, lots of people say they’ve squirted so it’s definitely real. But sexologists continue to debate the issue. Stirring questions in the realm of squirting include such age-old dilemmas as: Is squirting triggered by stimulating the G spot or is the G spot actually just part of a whole clitoral compound? Is the fluid that comes out of people when they squirt some special squirty-cum or is it just pee? 

Never fear, dear reader, for you are not alone on your journey for answers. For the purposes of writing this column, I am a fellow traveler with you on the squirty path of life. Luckily, our dear friends at the Centre for Sex and Culture are experts on squirting, so we’re in good hands.

So let’s get down to business and, like the rigorous sexy voyagers we are, examine several aspects of the issue. Namely: What exactly is squirting? How do you squirt? And, if I’m not squirting already, am I now obligated to learn the art of the squirt or else I’m a sexual nobody? (Nah.)

A Squirty Controversy

The debate on squirting has divided sexologists, people who work at feminist sex toy shops, and people who wear white coats in pharmaceutical adds for centuries — or at least a few decades.

First, the basics: Squirting, also called “female ejaculation,” is when someone without a penis ejaculates a fluid from their urethra, generally following a lot of G spot stimulation. Of course, because we’re feminists we know that the “female” in “female ejaculation” is misleading, since just ‘cause you don’t have a dick doesn’t mean you’re female.

Researchers have different opinions on squirting, a result of the relative lack of research on female pleasure in general and squirting more specifically. A controversy recently erupted, for example, when a very small study concluded that the fluid ejaculated during squirting is actually urine, a conclusion which the squirting humans of Twitter have vociferously protested.

As far as we know, however, squirting totally exists, results from G spot stimulation, and the ejaculate that results comes from the Skene’s gland. This is a gland located on the upper wall of the vagina, part of the complex known as the “prostata femina,” or “female prostate” (which again, misleading, ‘cause not all people with vaginas are female!). When you get this complex really, really happy, it erupts.

Some of the controversy about this happy organ and its ejaculatory fun, our friend Carol at the Center for Sex and Culture has noted, is because it’s quite possible not all women actually have Skene’s glands. And it’s also possible that some women pee a little during sex. The body is strange and this is all normal and acceptable, so don’t panic!

The Squirty Journey

So, how do you squirt? It’s all about the g spot.

First off, if you’re embarking on a journey to squirt city, remind yourself that sex is not a goal-oriented endeavor and that even if you don’t squirt, you get to touch yourself/have a partner touch you for a long time, which is great in and of itself.

If you care about not getting your sheets wet and you’re feeling optimistic, put down a towel. Also, so that you’re not paranoid about peeing on said towel, pee before you begin.

Now turn yourself on, friend (or recruit an enthusiastic lover to help you). Whatever gets you going. Book, porn, National Treasure parts 1 and 2. Stroke where you want to be stroked. Light a candle like Our Body, Ourselves used to suggest, if you get off on scented candles. Go to town on yourself (clit’s a good idea!).

When you’re super turned on, try meeting the G spot, if you’re not already friends. The G spot is located a couple inches into the vagina, and feels like a ribbed or spongy place on the upper wall. If you can feel it, give it a good press.

Also, remember that everything is chill and that even if you don’t have a moment of G spot revelation where you’re like “IT HATH BEEN FOUND!”, you’re totally normal. For years I thought I had found my G spot until a girlfriend actually stimulated my G spot for the first time. It really can feel like you’ve got to pee, but in a sexy way.

Now is where we get into the sticky part: G spot pressure. Lots of pressure. Use your fingers or use a sex toy; most of all, use your imagination! 

I personally get this far in my squirting journey, feel super pee-tastic, and then get really tense about the pee thing, which totally prevents the squirt thing. So don’t be like me: embrace the pee, listen to Sesali and enjoy the ride!

Pro tip: If you actually do pee at any point in the squirting journey, that’s okay. This is why we have detergent and water to wash sheets. No one will perish tragically from exposure to squirting-adjacent urine and you will get a great sex story out of it.

Go you!

If I’m not already squirting do I have to go and learn squirting or else I’ll be a sexual nobody???

No!

If you are already a squirtin’ diva, that is awesome for you and I hope you are having lots of fun! Go you, human!

If you’re not already squirting like a water gun, but you feel that getting your ejaculation on would be a super fun experience that would up your general sexual hilarity, go for it! Try following the above advice, and hey — let me know if it works.

If you’re not a squirter and you feel that this particular piece of sexual trivia sounds meh/too complicated/or it is just not high on your priority list, you totally never have to read, think, or even utter the word “squirt” again. While we 100% respect the experiences of people who find that squirting is a great part of their sexual existence, we don’t all have to squirt ourselves. To each their very own, baby.

And as to whether porn has misled us as to the reality or desirability of squirting: People sometimes see things performed dramatically for a camera, are turned on by those things, and then want to replicate these things in the home bedroom and maybe even stake their sense of personal satisfaction on whether they can replicate said things. These attempts range from “borderline unrealistic” to “only safe for trained professionals,” depending on the activity. And also, of course, what mainstream pornography often does not adequately display is the wonderful variety of human sexuality.

So if you’re into squirty porn, that’s great, but don’t let it lead you to believe that you’re inadequate if you can’t squirt or can’t release, like, an entire bottle of whipped cream from your genitals. Also, if you find mainstream porn is giving you performance anxiety, might be a good moment to try out queer and feminist alternatives! At the end of the day, just remember that each human body is unique and does different things and that is why being a human is awesome.

Now, dear reader, we have come to the end. I wish you luck on your squirty journey, whatever form it takes. Enjoy, and remember — the journey, not the quantity of fluid ejaculated by your nether regions, is the real succor of life.

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Posted by KiM

Last week I featured this project by Sue Miller of Mad Cow Interiors. Of course her home is totally rad so I had to share it as well. Sue used reclaimed materials and up-cycling to create bespoke furniture, with a goal to create an industrial rough luxe theme, mixed with various mid century modern touches. Lots of dark walls, bold colour accents and patterns in fabrics and wallpaper are common to Sue's style and this is all prominent in her own home. So much fun and energy and creativity. 

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Oct. 18th, 2017 12:00 pm
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I just want to be here. Oh I also want to be glamorous and rich and as young as I was in the 80s. You may think it is a decade that taste forgot and how on earth would we want it back but then along comes a room that has its design zeitgeist so firmly in that era and it's love at first sight. By Caroline Legrand Design.

Golden glow

Oct. 18th, 2017 04:30 am
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Edgy, cool and glamorous. If the copper in the kitchen of this extension to what is a heritage home isn't enough bling for you, wait until you see the gold ceiling. Minimalist, luxurious, impeccably detailed, highly functional and unique in it's materiality - Adelaide Residence 4 by Enoki.

Photography by Evolved Images

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Oct. 18th, 2017 03:08 pm
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Curious question: do they teach 'show don't tell' anymore?

I seem to be reading a disproportionate number of stories lately where I've been told everything that's going on, using a character's headspace and thoughts, rather than being shown it in a character's interaction with other people and the universe around her. And it kind of makes me want to rewrite the story to be better...

--

I have eaten an awful lot in the last week, thanks to Sydney's Night Noodle Markets, which is full of amazing Asian-esque food.

Granted, I went with a couple of friends on Monday, and am going again with a couple more friends on Thursday, and I went and bought some last night (taking it home in a takeaway container)

a list of foods )

I went for a walk, but the wind proved problematic for my skirts, so I ended up taking the elevator to the floor six below the one I work on (also owned by the client) and walking up. It was a good walk; I must do that more often...for the seven days that I have left working here.

Dear Author: Marvel Is Marvel

Oct. 18th, 2017 08:46 am
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Dear author,

I'm presently trying to decide whether not being able to pick the same fandom multiple times with different groups of characters is a dealbreaker.

Welcome to my Dear Author letter for [community profile] marvelismarvel, wherein I try to give you a snapshot of the kind of stuff I like, and which you are welcome to take as gospel (although I don’t recommend it), consider as guidelines (rather than rules), or simply read as an exercise in curiosity (entirely acceptable).

Do Not Wants:
  • non-con, dubcon
  • fridged women
  • in sex: wet, messy, dirty, bodily fluids, guro
  • pairings I haven’t asked for (even in the background)
  • men dominating the narrative
  • unhappy/depressing endings


Likes:
  • female-driven narratives
  • non stereotypically-feminine female characters
  • action, dialogue, conversation, crisis/conflict, resolution
  • show, don’t tell
  • friendships/romances that are respectful of difference


letter in progress )

All these ideas are, ultimately, optional. If they speak to you, then well and good. If they don’t speak to you, then go with the fandom, character, and relationships that we matched on, and it’ll be fine!

Thanks.
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Posted by Meg Sri

Last week, the United States’ men’s soccer team lost 2-1 in a World Cup Qualifier to Trinidad and Tobago, the only team below them in the group standings, sending them crashing out of the Men’s World Cup for the first time since 1986 in what some are calling “the worst loss in the history of U.S. Men’s Soccer.” It seems a good a time as any to remember that it was only in April this year that the U.S. women’s too, lost an important fight: the battle to gain equal pay with the men’s team. And it also seems a good time to remember that while the U.S. men comically crashed out of the World Cup, the women won it in 2015.

The deeper one dives, the more embarrassing the record is. The U.S. women’s team’s record in World Cups the past twenty years includes two victories, one second-place finish, and three third-place finishes. The men’s involves one non-qualification, two exits at the Group Stages, two at the Round of 16, and one high of a quarterfinal finish. The women have lost only two Olympic gold medals between 1996 and 2016. The (under-23, but nonetheless) men did not qualify three times in the same period.

The history of U.S. men’s soccer is far from illustrious in general, especially on the international stage. As FiveThirtyEight points out, “In the 1998 World Cup and the 2006 World Cup — the last two on European soil — it combined for one tie and five losses. In 2015, the team was stunned at home in the Gold Cup semifinal by Jamaica, which at the time was ranked 76th in the world by FIFA.” Meanwhile, the women’s team has been characterized by roaring  successes, entertaining play, stimulating victories, and renewed public interest in soccer. They also now bring in more game revenue than men, bringing in $23 million last year, and turned over 3 times as much profit as the men in 2016. U.S. Soccer predicts the same will happen in 2017 for the women — while the men are expected to turn over a loss of $1 million.

In March 2016, five of the U.S. women’s team players filed a federal complaint with the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission alleging that U.S. soccer acted discriminatorily in paying its female players less than those on the men’s team. The complaint pointed out some startling figures: women, if they won and including their win bonus, would earn $4,950 per game; the men would earn $5,000 just for showing up (and a whopping $8,166 if they won, rare as that might be). If women won all their games in a year, they’d earn $99,000 — still less than the men’s salary for just showing up and losing every game, at $100,000. And that’s not counting the litany of smaller discriminatory practices: coach flights vs. business class; dangerous artificial turf vs. real fields; and lower per diems and pay for sponsor appearances.

The fight did end in some form of victory in April this year: women’s players got pay raises of over 30%, better bonuses, higher per diems, and other financial benefits. And yet U.S. soccer couldn’t take the final leap and pay a multiple World Cup-winning, tremendously victorious side that is more financially profitable the same amount of money as a mediocre side that crashes out of a World Cup and expects to net a revenue loss.

Last week’s World Cup qualifier loss was a sobering reminder to some soccer fans about systemic problems with U.S. men’s soccer. But to many of us, it is also a sobering reminder to women: you can be twice or thrice as good as men, but you still cannot expect to be treated or paid on par with them.

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